You're not designed for everyone to like you
Every people has their desire but mostly they can take it because of a lot of reasons. but the only thing that I know is they under control of human being sound creepin right? Because that's what we called reality. We have ambitious goals in life but always the situation controls us. Many people say Anything happens for the reason and I believe that however what if you failed twice, trice or many times what do you think is that reason? The reason is you are under control with someone else! How did I know? Oh well scroll this page and read more.
I express myself in a way that I stop pretend things to impress people. If I don't like the things I will tell. If I'm upset I cry, I can do decision for myself. I tell the things which I don't like and most of all I don't let people decide what's best for me. I'm kind of being narcissistic in a way that I can do all the things for myself. Life is short so I spend time to love myself.
Not everyone will be happy when you begin to better yourself. I believe that they will be happy if you will fail. To those people who believe you keep them because they are precious stones that you need to keep. Don't depend on your success for them because they will never help you believe me. The truth is everyone is going to hurt you. You just to find the ones worth suffering for.
My Insecurities can kill me
Once upon a time, I heard a conversation that might kill me. "What is all about?" The conversation is all about love and success. Honestly, I felt guilty when the person is happy for having someone. Then after a while, I ask myself "What about me? When I can find the person who can make me feel special? or When he can find me? Silently cried. I don't want to talk about this. but, you know what every night I ask myself that I'm worth it? but what in a way? Do I worth it to wait?. My agony has strong as of the moment. Yes, I was emotionally devastated but the only one who reads this blog can know what I'm feeling right now besides no one cares. I think "What's wrong of being me when I feel upset?" has an automatic answer. 'It's also rare for you to notice my pain. I'm hurt. Most of the time. Maybe you're just too happy to think everyone else is smiling. but silently deeply hurting.
I'am starting to Disconnecting
Disconnecting to people wouldn't actually care about you is the best decision I've ever made. I'm starting to remove people from my social media account to enjoy my own company. I'm not begging for many likes that they don't care about me. Disconnecting from certain people can bless your life. Do not bring people in your life who weigh you down and always trust your instinct.
It's okay to make a decision that makes you feel happy and free. Disconnecting from toxic people is the key to your mental and spiritual growth. The sad truth is some people don't care about you. They just want to stay connected with you to know what your life it's going through. They love their benefits.
Realization
I would like to say sorry about my insecurities. Don't worry I do not tolerate I just sharing my sadness. I'm a human being and I feel vulnerable because of the seeking love. This is bad and I admit that seeking love is not the answer for happiness. I believe that word of worth to wait and I'm still handling it. One thing that can inspire me is the written of Rebecca Campbell.
" The World is filled with people who, no matter what you do, will point blank not like you. But is also filled with those who will love you fiercely. They are your people.
You are not for everyone and that's OK.
Talk people who can hear you.
"Don't waste your precious time and gifts trying to convince them of your value, they wont ever want you're selling. Don't convince them to walk alongside of you.
You'll be wasting both your time and theirs and will likely inflict. unnecessary wounds, which will take your precious time to heal.
You're not for them and they are not for you; politely wave them on., and continue along your way. Sharing your path with someone is sacred gift; don;t cheapen this gift.
by rolling yours in the wrong decision.
Keep facing your true north.
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I think disconnecting and unfollowing the necessary people who do not uplift you, is beneficial for one's mental health.
ReplyDeleteI agree but its so hard to do in reality. We are a natural people pleaser.. But can be learned through time I guess
ReplyDeleteThis is AWESOME!!! And yes we should always always remember this! I started to surround myself with positive people and it made the entire difference.
ReplyDeletepeople values us when we start to value ourself..... everything begins from us then why should we give others that much important...we should always put ourself on first priority..... Much informative blog and inspiring... Thanks for sharing them....(World in Eyes)
ReplyDeletethis was so inspiring! Ehy be someone else when you can be a first class prototype version of unique individual with perfect imperfections?
ReplyDeleteI'm unfollowingthat I knew in real life that they don't like me. I don't know why they are following me on social media they don't even speak to me. I just have to take care of the toxic people and get rid of them.
ReplyDeleteTotally agree. We are not for everyone. However finding our voice and being able to share our ideas become essential in our world. Thank you for the reminder and the morning inspiration.
ReplyDeleteI agree, it can be really difficult to accept when people dislike you. I've been disconnecting from people who (as Marie Kwando would day) do not spark joy and it really does lead to a happier life.
ReplyDeleteGeorgia| Britvoyage
I've also had to make the decision to disconnect from certain people lately. It's tough, but it has to be done.
ReplyDeleteSelf-reflection and self-analysis can really boost your place in life and who you are.
ReplyDeleteGood luck with all of this -- I think setting your boundaries and protecting yourself mentally will lead to good health.
ReplyDeleteI thin it's great that you are putting YOU first! Some people may not like it, but that's their own problem. The only time I don't put myself first is when it comes to my kids, but even then I have my limits and I still have to take care of me!
ReplyDeleteAt the end of the day, you are living for yourself so why not put yourself first? This is such an important message!
ReplyDeleteThis is very true. First and foremost we are the most important person in our lives and we need to respect and protect ourselves.
ReplyDeleteI think it's important to surround yourself with people who believe in you and lift you up. There are good people out there...you just have to find your tribe.
ReplyDeleteThis could be called the Bible of living!!! Being real to yourself is one of the best decisions one can make to live a meaningful life.
ReplyDeleteThank you for the is masterpiece.
This is true. A lot of people would love to see you fail instead of succeed. I learned to block all the negative people in my life, starting in social media. It feels refreshing :)
ReplyDeleteThis article helped me boost my self confidence and avoid negative people. Thank you so much :)
ReplyDeleteTotally agree with "you are not for everyone". You can't please everybody so just focus on you and be the best version of yourself :)
ReplyDeleteThis is absolutely true. Sometimes, we just don't need to force ourselves to other people's lives if they don't like us. Love ourselves instead, and focus on your own self esteem. Thanks for sharing your insights!
ReplyDeleteSometimes I do have an issue with saying "no" to people because I am afraid I will hurt their feelings. However, as always, it is me who ends up hurting. It is just right that we put our needs first before others. That way, we can be more giving, more loving and better persons.
ReplyDeleteagree, we all need supportive people in life.
ReplyDeleteIndeed! Yu are not everyone's cup of tea. And sometimes we really need to unfollow people from our real life. Thanks for sharing tips.
ReplyDeleteI have been trying to disconnect with people who don't care about for a while as I want to look out for myself me and minimize insecurities. But it is so hard.
ReplyDeleteTrying to please everyone is impossible. Being helpful when needed, is enough. Live life on your own terms, be grateful for what you have & be your true self. Stay happy.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with you this for sure. I think sometimes in life we need to move away from those who do not makes us happy x
ReplyDeleteSuch a profound quote. Sounds like a cool song title as well. And yes, don't try to be for everyone!
ReplyDeleteLoving yourself is the most important thing. Because if you dont love yourself you can not love others.Great post
ReplyDeletei totally agree with you. this is very insightful and sometimes it is necessary to unfollow the negativity and follow the positivity.
ReplyDeleteLife is too short to be a people pleaser! It's too stressful and not good for your mental health!
ReplyDeleteThis is so true. There are people that you really just need to unfollow and distance yourself from.
ReplyDeleteSuch a nice post! It is so important to reflect and listen to yourself. We all have different dreams and desires.
ReplyDeleteAntonia || Sweet Passions
This is a lovely reminder and a refreshing one. We have to accept that not all people will fit us and we don't have to struggle to fit them.
ReplyDelete"Always be a first rate version of your self instead of a second rate version of somebody else" - I love this. So true!
ReplyDeleteThis is about self-love. We do not live to impress people. We are unique. We are different. We all have places intended for us in this world. So, lets keep this world a better place to live in by respecting each other's individuality.
ReplyDeleteNever apologize for who you are. You are unique and be yourself to please your awesome YOU, and not the people surrounds you.
ReplyDeleteI think it's important to create a good atmosphere around yourself which includes limiting the unnecessary people around you
ReplyDeleteThere will always be people in your life that you can't connect to, and that is totally fine, because, as you say, you don't have to get along with everyone. And you shouldn't worry about it either, as it's consuming you.
ReplyDeleteWe really can't please everybody. You're right! Instead of wasting time our time giving too much attention to others, why don't we use it to improve ourselves? ☺❤️
ReplyDeleteI hear you on this one. It is important just to do you and be the best person you can be xx
ReplyDeleteTotally agree with your points, surrounding yourself with positive people is really necessary.
ReplyDelete"Sometimes you have to un follow ppl in real life"...this really hit me and is so true. Loving and being true to ourselves is something I know so many people struggle with (including me) but you're right it really is the most important thing!
ReplyDeleteI agree with this. We can't please everyone and we shouldn't. We should focus on our well-being and on what makes/keeps us happy than depend on people's opinion or validation.
ReplyDeleteThat first quote was what I actually used as my senior quote in HS. It is my fav saying of all!
ReplyDeleteBeautiful message! Thank you for sharing. ��
ReplyDeleteThis is so true. Not everyone will like you, accept you, see things from your perspective and that's fine. You are a unique being. You are your own person. You are not for everyone.
ReplyDelete...and everyone is not for you, either! The sooner we understand that the better for us so as not trying to please people who don't/won't appreciate it. Keep doing you and what makes YOU happy.
ReplyDeleteAlthough ur points are right but I wish I was so strong like you. I really wish.
ReplyDeleteI believe the only love that we must be seeking for is love for ourselves. At the end of the day the only person that we can fully trust and have control over is ourselves. Everything else such as love from the right ones will come after. People come and go sadly, but either their toxic or not, we can always learn from that experience they have given us or from the relationships we had and all that experience can help us to grow and be wiser next time. ��
ReplyDeleteOnce you realize that you are not everyone's cup of tea and accept that not everyone will like you... I think you start living more for yourself than for other people.
ReplyDeleteSuch a great read! I totally agree and go by this. Being true to yourself and having inner peace is what matters!
ReplyDeleteI totally agree that my Insecurities can kill me. So important to understand this.
ReplyDeleteI loved the article! Especially the part about seeking love is not being the answer for happiness. For me, I find my faith and religion give me great joy :)
ReplyDeleteWe can't be everything to everyone so it is always best to live our own lives. Those who matter will connect and the rest will move on.
ReplyDeleteElizabeth O
What a profound post! Makes one think. I think I am going to save it up to read again after a few days.
ReplyDeleteThere is a saying that I love: "You cannot please everyone, you're not a jar of Nutella" and that got me thinking... there are people who don't like Nutella. If even Nutella is not for everyone... who are we to judge? :)
ReplyDeleteNegativity loves company, sometimes following people in our lives is the best way forward. I no longer live my life to please other people. At the end of the day the only person you need to be pleasing is yourself.
ReplyDeleteIts good when not everyone likes you. It means that you are being a real person.
ReplyDeleteThe people who are for you, will be there for you. And these are the people who loves you for who you really are. We are not supposed to hide our flaws from anyone. We cannot please everyone, and not everyone matters anyway. Live your life the best way that you know how.
ReplyDeleteI think learning that we can't please everyone comes with age- especially when you're young and "being friends with everyone" is pushed on us.
ReplyDeleteI have realized that we are not for everyone ever since. I know people will dislike me for one reason or the other. I do not care. But let us value the ones that appreciate our worth, our talents, our uniqueness. And I value you for being so kind, helpful and friendly I hope you wont change.
ReplyDeleteThings we take for granted are the inner things that we feel. It could take so much of the self-motivation to do things. Thanks for your post.
ReplyDeleteThat is so true! We are not for everyone, so just be ourselves and do our own thing. We are not born to please everyone. Great post!
ReplyDeleteVery interesting post and perspective. Not everyone will like you and that is okay.
ReplyDeleteMy closest friends are always telling me to stop trying to be a people-pleaser, but it can be so difficult at times. I really need to give myself a kick up the back side and realise that I'm most definitely not for everybody!
ReplyDeleteLouise x